WHY PRIORITISE Love ?

It has become my  sanctuary of beauty, safety and pleasure that amplifies everything else I care for and do in life. My work reflects this, my stepping up to BEing the being I know I am as well as how I carry myself through life, refelcts this.

I am experiencing a shift where I feel that having a thriving self and partnership is...living my values.

If I allow myself to be honest, in the quiet folds of my mind, Love is what I find meaningful.

So Show up for your love, like you’d show up for anything else you care about. 

By intention vs chance.

But if we want to be in love with our lives, there is a strong correlation with integrating the raw pain still sitting in the nervous system. Most of the time, it includes letting others (fully) in.

We are not meant to be doing (any of ) this alone, no matter what got indoctrinated within us as we have made our way into life so far.

I always believed (and still do) that " if i cannot be honest and transparent with my partner, without rephrasing myself in my head before doing or speaking, then Who else could I be honest with ? "

I had to go through many relationships to get to actioning this belief.  My last relationship was exactly ten fold of everything I stood against.

Yet my body memories and wounds surfaced so strong that My fear of not being good enough and no longer being loved, was what triggered the shut down in my heart.

With time, the love toward myself seeped out, as I was too consumed with receiving the acceptance and love that I felt I needed and was entitled to. From my partner.

We didnt go deep as I dreamt we would, instead, We parted ways. It  was not quite amicably and not as emotionally mature as I envisioned it would be.

It felt cruel. It was eye opening.

After a period of being on my own, I got to remember and embody the value within myself. And I was more complete.

For now, I have come home to peace and bliss. Within myself. This allows me to navigate myself within the current relationship.

And when I have relaps moments (like we all do ) they no longer last as long, or leave a deep wound.

Everything around me is in a relationship with me. Plants, people, animals, the mind, the spiritual realm and even the stories I tell myself or allow to impact me.

If you`re really into your partnership and maybe they are not on board with this from the begining, stay consistent, take action, lead the way.

Make it a priority, and if it helps, put it in your shedule and you show up, especially when you don’t want to or it is really hard. 

At times, we all need to prioritize our career, our children, our health and our own path…I stand by that. I urge you not to get consumed or hide behind that.

In terms of partnership,Partners who are in love, who are good to their bodies and their souls, are kinder humans to all that surrounds them.

make it your life’s intent to have a thriving partnership. Be it a partnership with yourself or everything else.